Asperger’s – What should we do?

No cure, no medication. This is a neurological condition, not a psychological issue. Not even therapy will work.
After I dried my tears, daddy bought Asperger’s Books, and we were determined to learn about Asperger’s and live with it. We would be change our parenting style and help Alexander learn to cope with daily life.

It is a new world for us. I went to few training classes and talked to some professionals. It helped. Now I know, when Alexander flaps his hands, or jumps all over the house, or skips around on the hallway, I now need to re-direct his energy—and not punish him for these actions that he could not stop. Now I know when he can’t control his anger, crying or hitting, I need to ask and find out the reason and help him figure out a way control the situation. It is a little bit overwhelming and we are still trying to adjust to it.

I plan to work with an Occupational Therapist for Alexander’s sensory issues. The more I learned, the more I would understand how to coach Alexander.

As Autism Specialist – Miss Helene Mann told me: pick your battles. I just have to learn a creative way to parent Alexander. Now, I won’t get mad when he forgets his shoes or backpack. I learned to use a check list to train him, but I also know it will take a while. I won’t get mad when he curls his whole body in the car because his “legs hurt.” I know he just needs a few minutes rest and to bounce around a bit because he can’t control himself.

What should we do? We’ll start a number of training lists and plans, getting ready in the morning, how to deal with emergency situations, daily greetings, etc. Step by step.

It will take a while, but I know our love will make us strong.